For example: if we look at the doctrine of the elect (2 Timothy 1:9, 10, Ephesians 1:4-5, Romans 9). Some would say that it is unfair that a loving God would choose some people for eternal life and some would never hear the call of God at all. In this particular debate, the problem does not lie with whether it is scriptural or not, but it lies with our concept of "FAIR." We think loving & fair are as we know it on earth-our justice system, our beliefs of right and wrong, our convictions or lack of on what people should and should not do. When we come up against a subject that does not fit with OUR concept, we doubt everything we know to be absolute truth. We project what we think onto what God does or doesn't do, and we think somehow we are the right one.
The same goes for when someone dies of cancer, or a child is lost, or someone we love leaves this earth before we think it's their time. We don't always understand God's timing and His ultimate plan in everything.
We have to think back to the basics in all of these hard issues.
What do we KNOW to be true of God?
God IS LOVE
God IS HOLY
God IS JUST
God IS SOVEREIGN
Since we know these attributes to be absolutely true, we must adjust OUR concepts of what we THINK those qualities should look like to the reality of what they really are. For instance, is God fair even when I don't get MY way? Yes, because someone else did. Is God just even when He blesses something that I do not approve of? Yes, because I do not know the whole plan of God. We must believe that God is sovereign and has an ultimate plan to work all thing together for good for those who love God and are called according to HIS purpose. (Romans 8:28).
I hear people praise God when something they've desperately been praying about is answered in a favorable way. They say, "Sally has been healed of cancer. God is so good!" Yes, that is so true. But if Sally had died from her cancer, wouldn't God has still been good?! We forget the absolute truths because we are fallen. We are human, and this always gets in the way of see the full reality of God. (1Corinthians 2 says this very thing!)
God is altogether "other" than us. We are stamped with His image, but do not be mistaken to think that God is like US...not at all! We are becoming like HIM as we grow in God's holiness and are being sanctified, but we cannot understand all that is in Heaven, because unlike God, we are finite. We have fragile minds that could not comprehend God's full purpose even if He did choose to reveal it to us. That is why we have faith in someOne greater than ourselves. That is why we cling to hope of more than we are.
Also, scripture says this in Isaiah 55:8 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord"
This song illustrates these thoughts of mine so well.